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When your mental health isn't in the best state, give yourself a break. Don't feel guilty for things you can't do. Normal things like eating, sleeping or socialising may be difficult, it's okay to struggle. Rest, recover, be kind to yourself and know the bad times are temporary.
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Just because you did something wrong in the past, doesn’t mean you can’t advocate against it now. It doesn’t make you a hypocrite. You grew. Don’t let people use your past to invalidate your current mindset. Growth is a concept. Embrace it.
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Scratch your girl's back underneath her bra band.
Attention men and ladies who like ladies: scratch your girl's back right where the bra band sits. It feels amazing! Especially after a long day!
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The only person you need to be concerned with impressing is yourself in 10 years.
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You don’t always have to have a logical reason for saying “No”. “I’m not comfortable with that” is a really good reason.
The sooner you learn the power of 'no', the better.
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If you can smell yourself a little bit, others can smell you a lot.
You grow so accustomed to your own body odour that you eventually don't realise that you have one. When you can start to smell a little bit of your odour then its gotten to the point where you need to seriously take a deep clean. Had to learn this the hard way.
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If you win a friendly bet, use the money you get to take them out for a couple of drinks or food. It will improve your relationship with the person, which can be a lot more valuable than a few bucks.
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If you notice that someone's done a good job of something, tell them about it.
you brighten their day and making them feel good will make you happy too :)
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Imposter syndrome is normal. You will likely feel inadequate or like a fraud at some point in your career. Don’t give into it— you’re doing better than you think.
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When talking to customer service, instead of saying ‘you’ say the company’s name.
People tend to become defensive when you say a pointed ‘you’, but if you put the onus on the company as opposed to the customer service rep (who’s fault it never was) you are much more likely to get results.
For example:
“I would like you to compensate me for your errors”
Change it to,
“I would like [Company] to compensate me for their errors”
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"Trying to talk to anyone about your depression in 2020 immediately turns out into a who's-the-most-mentally-ill contest."
So when someone is going through a difficult time and is sharing it with you, don't talk about similar problems you're having as a way to relate. Instead, just listen to them. Make them feel heard.
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When a friend is upset, ask them one simple question before saying anything else: 'Do you want to talk about it or do you want to be distracted from it?'
This is honestly one of the best things you can do for an upset friend. I use it all the time and people respond very well to it. Sometimes people come to you because they need to vent. Comfort them first, then follow up with 'do you want advice or do you want me to just listen?'. But other times, they just need to let someone outside of the conflict know what happened, and then they want to talk about something else. Talk about your own day, show them the latest funny thing you saw, go do something fun together. This question sets boundaries and builds trust. It shows you can be there in any way they need.
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Never loan someone an amount of money you aren't okay losing permanently. You need to mentally consider it a gift and consider the money gone. So many people are terrible at paying back so when you consider it a gift it is a nice surprise if the money comes back. If not you really helped them.
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If you don't know the answer to your kids question, don't dismiss it. Tell them you don't know the answer, and that you will look it up together.
Don't be afraid to not know. You can model a lot of learning this way.
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The next time you catch yourself judging someone for their clothing, hobbies, or interests ask yourself "what does it matter to me?" The more you train yourself to not care about the personal preferences of other people, the more relaxed you become. Bonus- you become a nicer person.
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If you are ever in need of a happiness boost, do some cleaning around your house/apartment/room; Immediately seeing the results of your work can exponentially liven up your mood up
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The more times you vent or complain about a problem without doing anything about it, the less people care.
At some point it’s just whining. And if you do it enough, it’s not just the problem - they’ll also stop caring about you as a person.
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Express gratitude, rather than apologize, to keep people on your side when you make a mistake.
Example: If you are working in retail, and if a customer is waiting for a while, it’s natural for you to say, “Sorry for the wait.” That immediate puts fault on you and puts the customer in a position to either admonish you or forgive you. Neither is appropriate in a sales situation.
Instead, you should start saying things like, “Thank you for waiting. I appreciate your patience.” Then you’ve complimented them. They feel like the bigger person, just for having done the ‘kind gesture’ of not knowing you still hold the reins.
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Learn to just accept compliments. When someone says something good about you, they usually mean it. Don't feel like you have to say "well thank you, but..." It'll make the both of you better off.
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If it's painful for you to criticize your friends, you're safe in doing it; if you take the slightest pleasure in it, that's the time to hold your tongue.
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