“He cheated on me”
The above text flashed on my screen. It was from an old school friend I've been talking to.
She used to unburden herself by usually sharing all the issues she was dealing with, because of her recent split with this guy.
She said, “Juveria, when I got to know that he left me to get along with someone else, I lost every bit of confidence that I had in myself.”
This wasn't the first time I was hearing something like that.
Whenever some person had opened up to me about getting cheated on, they always mentioned how this whole thing made them feel like absolute shit about themselves.
They felt totally worthless, deplorable and undeserving of love.
They started projecting the whole thing on themselves, being dead sure that perhaps they were so trashy and that is why the person left them for someone better.
My heart goes out to all the people who have been through/are going through something like that.
I just want y'all to know that ‘It was never you'
It might seem like a hard thing to believe but the truth is that the way people choose to treat you has nothing to do with how you are.
You could give away every ounce of your soul to love someone and still get cheated on. Or you could kill someone everyday and still be loved by them till their last breath.
It's always them.
The way they treated you, most probably that's how they're functioned to treat people, and you were just another person in the series of people that are going to suffer ’cause of them.
Them leaving you for literally anybody, doesn't make you any less than anyone. You're still whole, and as breathtaking-ly amazing as you always were.
Please don't fall into this ugly trap of comparing yourself to someone else just because of one person’s dumbfuckery.
Know that you deserve absolute peace of mind and liberate yourself :)